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Tuesday 31 May 2011

kisah hati..antara aku dia dia dan dia..

suatu petang aku dengan mak di dapur..minum petang
aku : "mak agak2 kalau acik x da calon suami..mak jerw la tolong carikan.."
mak : "jgn nk mengada...cari sendiri.."
aku : "ermmm..cari sendiri susah la mak.. takut tersalah pilih ajerw..takut pn ada"
mak : "dah dah berlajar dulu bagi habis..kerja elok2 baru kawen"
aku : "acik cakap nie bukan utk skrng..tp utk ke hadapan nanti..klw x cakap awal2 nanti mak ingt acik da ada pasangan..karang x kawen plak acik..sapa yang susah?? mak jugak..sbb x da menantu..hehehehe.."

ermmm perbualan aku dengan mak satu tika dulu...kenapa yerw.. bila aku bersungguh2 inginkan orang tua ku yang memilih soal jodoh ku..diaorang tak nak.. dan makin kuat  aku mengatakan yang aku mahukan jodoh itu datangnya dari pilihan orang tuaku..makin semak kepala otak ku dengan kisah lelaki...


kisah lelaki A :
meluahkan perasaan aku pada dia?? ermmm macam mana? malu la.. tak pandai...ermmm sorry...
bukan aku tak suka kan dia..bukan aku menolak untuk menyanyangi dirinya.. aku terima dia..kalaw dia cakap dia hanya seorang cleaner pun aku masih tetap ada perasaan pada dia.. tapi untuk aku meluahkan pada dia...ermm susah.. puncanya?? aku takut dikecewakan pabila aku telah meluahkan rasa hati nie pada si dia.. tidak kah kecewa itu menyakitkan.. mungkin jugak perasaan itu lah yg makin membuat si dia jauh hati dgn ku.. bukan ak tak nak ucap kan kalimah itu.. tapi aku malu..aku takut.. tapi aku sentiasa ingatkan dia.. aku terima ajerw dia..tapi betul kerw dia suka aku? betul ke dia jujur akan hal nie? kami tak pernah jumpa.. pangilan call jarang2... alahai... banyak yang perlu dirisau kan... ermmm sorry awak.. saya tak maksudkan untuk melukakan hati awak..

kisah lelaki B :
aku tak pernah menyoalkan tentang hati dan perasaan..perkataan cinta tak pernah aku ucapkan.. kami hanya kawan..tapi tak ku sangka si dia telah beri andaian lain pada hubungan persahabatan nie.. aku kah yang bersalah?? aku cuma hendak berkawan baik dengannya...salah kerw seorang lelaki dan seorang wanita menjalinkan hubugan persahabatan tanpa mengaitkan perasaan cinta?? arghh terlalu sukar untuk dia memahami ku.

kisah lelaki C :
kami dah lama berpisah..punca perpisahan? yaaa..ak yang minta untuk memutuskan hubungan kami.. kenapa? kerana diri ku tidak dipedulikan..aku diibaratkan seperti tempat persinggahan pabila dia memerlukan..dia tak pernah ambik kisah tentang perasaan aku.. (katanya dia sibuk dengan kerjaya...ya..aku sangat - sangat memahami soal kerjaya nya..aku cuma memerlukan masa yang sedikit untuk kami..itu yang ku pinta..ak cuma mahukan keperihatinan nya dalam bercinta..itu yang ku harapkan) perpisahan kami..aku yang putuskan.. dia?? mengiyakan pon tidak.. menidakkan pon tidak... setelah perpisahan berlaku..yerw kami masih berhubung.. di facebook..sering saja dia menghantar post dan stetment yang berbunyi seperti si dia masih menyanyangi ku.. di hangphone...masejnya mengharapkan balasan dariku.. dan semalam.. tuhan telah menunjukkan bahawa dia hanya cuba untuk mempermainkan hati ini. dia sudah punya pasangan lain..tp masih meminta aku untuk menerimanya..bertapa lelaki lidah bercabang!!! syukur sangat kebenaran itu aku ketahui selepas kami dah berpisah.. aku bersyukur sangat ya allah.. engkau lah yang maha adil..setiap perpisahan pasti ada hikmahnya.. sayangnya dia masih meneruskan penipuan nya..dia kata aku hanya bercakap tanpa bukti kukuh.. "awak...perlu kerw saya berbohong?? untuk apa perlu saya berbohong..awak pon tahu kan dgn siapa awak berpasangan sekarang nie..bukan saya nk mengangu kebahagian hubungan awak..tp awak sedar tak yang awak telah mempermainkan hati pasangan awak skunk nie? dengan saya awak menyatakan awak masih sayangkan saya..tp hakikatnya awak berpasangan dgn insan lain..saya cuma nk awak berhenti menganggu hidup saya..antara awak dan saya..semuanya telah berakhir..kita x mungkin akan bersama..itu takdir yang tuhan dah tetapkan..dan please berhenti dalam permainan ini..! x perlu awk utk mengaku kesalahan awak pada saya..cuma cukup sekadar jgn ganggu hidup saya...!"
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Thursday 26 May 2011

Long distance relationship

How to be Romantic in Long Distance Relationship



Throughout our experience working with long distance couples, we frequently heard that long distance relationship does not have the elements of romance in it. This is not caused by the lack of love in long distance relationship but couples in such situation just do not know how to be romantic to each other. Romance in long distance relationship is necessary and it can make your relationship stronger regardless how far your lover may be.
There are million of things you can do to increase the romance in your long distance relationship. The basic rule here is to build your ability to show your distance partner that you really cherish and value the relationship throughout your LDR. Below are some of the areas you must understand and practice in order to increase the romance in your long distance relationship.  

Sweet Talk
Communication is the most important thing in a long distance relationship and you must be able to talk sweetly over the telephone or any cheap channel that you can grab hold. Tell your partner that how you have missed and love them on their absence. Remember to tell your distance partner that you still treasure and care for them even when they are not physically around. Let them know that although you cannot be with them but you constantly think, enchanted and fascinated by them. Sweet talk can never be too much and you can do it as often as you like whenever you got the change to speak or communicate with your distance lover.

Listening with Care
Listening is the next most important thing in long distance relationship. It is important to be able to listen and understand completely the things that your partner is telling you whether it is about their day, wants or dreams. You are their only trusted person that they can look for to share and let their anger off without having to worry and therefore you must be able to listen with care when your partner needs you to lend them your ear. Sharing with your partner will always allow you to build and enhance the romantic moment in your relationship.

Love Note
Nothing is better that a written note with “I love you” message on it. Include this note whenever you send a letter to your distance partner or every time you send something to them. When you had the chance to meet your long distance partner, slip this note into their wallet, handbag, briefcase and etc without their knowledge. The note can be anything from simple “I miss you” to full blown love letter letting you distance partner know how much you have miss him or her.

Virtual Kiss
It may seem that kissing your partner is almost impossible in long distance relationship but you can always give a virtual kiss to your partner. You can always make a lipstick mark on a handkerchief with your mouth or write a “Kiss in Advance” note on a paper and send it to your partner. Tell your partner that you wanted to give them a kiss in advance and ask them to keep the handkerchief or note to remind you of the kiss when he or she sees you the next time. 

Having Fun
Having fun is an important and serious matter in long distance relationship. Take the time to have fun with your distance lover. Both of your can always spend your time playing online computer game, surfing the internet, watching a movie at the same time or as well as spending the whole evening telling jokes to each other on the phone. Remember the good times that you both had while together and share them while chatting on the phone. You can also tease and make joke on your partner just to lighten up your conversation from time to time. Anyway you must know the limit as over teasing can cause hurt on your partner. The idea is to have fun while both of you had the opportunity to talk to each other on the phone. 

Courtesy and Respect
Courtesy and respect are very important in long distance relationship. You partner may not be physically around but they are still part of your life and a little courtesy or respect can definitely pull both of your closer to each other. Remember to seek for your partner’s opinion in making a decision concerning the relationship and this will indirectly show them that you still care for them. Being romantic is to care, respect and understand your partner regardless where they may be. 

Giving Compliments
Complimenting your partner is another way to show that you appreciate them in a long distance relationship. Think of something to complement your distance partner every day or every week. It does not have to be anything big or major. Something like “You look beautiful today” or “Your voice is sweet” will make your partner feel nice about them self even they are far away. On the other hand, you must remember to give only a sincere and honest compliment to your long distance partner. Your partner will certainly feel romantic knowing that you still admire and appreciate them despite the distance.


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